8 Things You Should Not Do With An Infant

When a baby is in his mother’s arms, it’s a beautiful moment. There is no doubt that the mother will be overwhelmed with beautiful emotions, but she may also be a little nervous and not know what to do with an infant, especially if she is a first-time mother.

Despite all the advice from grandmothers, sisters, aunts and friends who have already experienced motherhood, infant training and hundreds of online searches, a new mother may not know what to do with all the information she has first received. the time she holds the baby.

We will summarize the basics of when the child is already at home. The main idea is to start motherhood with the right foot.

Below we have 8 situations that your child should never experience.

Things you should never do with an infant

1. Leave an infant alone

First of all, do not leave the child alone in the bed, crib, changing table or in another room. Not for a moment should an infant ever be unattended or alone.

Crying is a form of communication. If your baby is crying, it’s because he or she needs something: to be fed, or changed, something can hurt, or your baby simply needs to be with mom.

Some say that the child needs to learn how to be independent. However, this is something they learn later in life.

As with all mammals, an infant depends on the mother being close and attentive. After being in the mother’s womb for 9 months, where there was nothing but the mother’s voice, babies will often cry just to be with her.

2. Temporary breastfeeding

Although it is a more difficult course, if you have decided to breastfeed, there is nothing that can compare to the moment when your baby drinks while looking up at you. Congratulations!

Breastfeeding should not have a schedule, but it should be on request. With milk replacer, babies need to be fed every 3 hours.

An infant does not just need his mother’s breast milk when he feels hungry or thirsty. In addition  , it is also the only way to have contact, find comfort and feel the mother’s love.

3. Let an infant cry alone

There will always be a grandmother or aunt telling you that you should leave your baby crying alone in the crib for exercise. Those who are stubborn may even say that your baby is crying to manipulate you.

Manipulation is a concept that refers to adults, not to an infant. The key question you need to ask yourself is: after waiting for 9 months, should I leave my baby alone and cry?

A crying baby who does not get attention will eventually stop crying because he or she will begin to understand something : that you do not care about what happens to them.

Crying is a baby’s only form of expression; When a baby cries, he or she tries to tell you something.

Let infants sleep alone

An infant does not sleep like an adult does. Every two or three hours, the baby wakes up to see mum or dad eat to fall asleep again. You can not teach your baby to sleep, but rather, a baby will sleep naturally on its own.

Falling asleep on their own is a process that happens over time as they grow up. If you are unsure about sleeping in the same bed with an infant, keep the crib close to you so you can be next to them as soon as possible. Doing this will help you minimize the times you have to get up at night.

5. Shake infants aggressively

We have to say: after a tough night where your baby is just crying and no one knows what to do or what is wrong, you can really feel hopeless. The parents who say that they have never been tempted to shake their baby to stop crying are most likely lying.

Shaking them aggressively will not help your baby calm down. It will probably just scare them and make them cry even more.

In addition, you can damage their delicate little bodies. Love and frequent embraces will give them the peace and quiet they need to calm down.

6. Not keeping them

The security of being in the mother’s arms is relaxing for babies. If a baby does not regularly relax in the mother’s arms, he or she will have trouble calming down and starting life .

After three hours of physical distance from the mother, the baby’s perception of pain is activated. The result is stress and, in the long run, the formation of emotional scars.

Infants can not defend themselves. They need as much contact as possible with their mother. They need to be taken care of, protected and given the things they need. Limited contact with an infant from the beginning, weakens the hormonal receptors for happiness (serotonin, endogenous opioids and oxytocin).

7. Punish them

A small bib teaches the baby not to trust the person who takes care of them. In addition, babies learn to hold back their needs, they lose motivation because of the world around them, they lose confidence in themselves because they do not appreciate their impulses, and they accept pain and stress as if it are normal.

To raise happy babies who know their needs will be met, you need to be patient. Sure it’s easy to get hopeless sometimes. Taking care of and living with an infant is a messy task! On the other hand, babies need the care that comes from an adult’s patience.

Remember: when most loving people can control their negative emotions, they are guaranteed to be more empathetic and cooperative adults in the future.

8. Not trusting your instincts

There are many opinions out there, which vary from what the experts say to what other mothers tell you. While a community of other women and mothers may be of great help in the beginning, you need to trust yourself when your heart tells you to go another way.

Motherhood and living with an infant rekindles a woman’s contact with her nature and her purest instincts.