Promise Of Change: Will It Get Your Relationship Back?

Have you ever promised to change yourself to get a relationship back, or keep one? Has anyone ever done that to you? This situation happens when you know a breach is coming, but you refuse to accept it. The strangest thing is that when someone promises change, it is sometimes the best thing that can happen that the relationship ends.

Why? Because  promises of change are sometimes an attempt to manipulate you.

Promises changes to avoid losses

Let’s say the person you are with was unfaithful to you, and once you have discovered it, you are committing a pure breach.

• Your partner, out of desperation, tries everything they can to make you understand that it was a mistake, it will never happen again, that they will change. Lifter runs out of his mouth in search of approval.
• He even falls on his knees, if necessary, he prays, and all this sets in motion your feelings of pity and compassion. Sometimes it works and you give him another chance.

But it is not about changing, but instead about being aware that no matter how many promises he makes, they are made in the heat of the moment. In other words, it is simply an attempt to avoid losing you.

What does this mean? This means that the promise will not last. In fact, the moment you give him another chance, things can go straight back to how they were.

These promises to change come up in all kinds of situations: disagreements, lies, compatibility issues, breaches…

In the face of something like this, the person is afraid of losing their partner and not willing to accept when things go wrong in the relationship. They will try anything and give great promise in an attempt to manipulate your emotions.

Selfishness in relationships

Often we do not want to see how bad things are going. We focus only on what we want, so we are willing to sacrifice our health and theirs as well. This often happens as part of an emotional addiction. You promise to change so that you will not lose the person who is the subject of your addiction.

We are selfish. We bond with someone as we feed our poison and bring the other into all of this. You can not promise something you are not sure you can do.

Because promises are lurking you both. Your intentions may be good, but are you sure it will be fulfilled? You do not deserve to go through this again. You do not deserve to be lied to or lied to them.

Prolongation of pain

Promises of change can only prolong a situation that will end up giving you even more pain.

Therefore, it is important not to get carried away, but instead be objective and realistic. It is difficult, but why not rely on the advice of trusted friends or family members. Do not reject their advice just because it is not what you want to hear.

You will not hear what they have to say because you are confused. But over time, you get more perspective on the situations and realize how right they were. Do not cling to the promises that will never come true.

Let us open our eyes to these traps and not let ourselves be carried away by compassion and pity. Take time to reflect on the situation. Nobody says you have to decide right now. Give yourself the time you need to see the situation from a clearer and more precise perspective.