Alone Time: The Price Of Loneliness And The Benefits We Get
Did you know that we all need time for ourselves and that while the cost of loneliness can be great, we get many benefits from it?
You may not know it. After all, the society we have grown up in has prioritized romantic relationships first. If you are not in a relationship or you are not able to hold on for a long time, you will quickly be considered a loser.
All of this can cause serious problems. We may end up being dependent on a partner to be happy, or living in constant anxiety and looking for the person we can be with according to society’s standards.
The cost of loneliness can be both frightening and very enriching
The cost of loneliness can be daunting at first. The consequences of choosing to be alone are precisely that: being alone and facing abandonment.
You are probably aware of how much people humiliate themselves to avoid losing the person they love. You have seen how much someone tolerates so that the person who gives their life meaning should not leave them. After all, if they do, they will be left empty-handed and will not know what to do.
Even though humans are social creatures, this does not mean that we depend on others to be happy, or more specifically, to live.
Some people are so addicted that they feel lost. They lack their own opinions and they attach themselves so much to their partner that they stop being themselves.
“Who am I?”, “What do I want?”, “What do I like?”. These are questions that, believe it or not, many people do not know how to answer. If they do, their answer may be what their partner is, what they want or like.
Thanks to loneliness, you can rediscover yourself. You can truly be yourself.
You have disguised yourself and you have ceased to be yourself because of fear that is nothing more than that, an unfounded fear.
No one understands those who choose to be alone
The price of loneliness is very heavy to bear. After all, it will be difficult to find people around you to support you. Many people will think that you are weird, that you have gone crazy, or that you have some kind of trauma.
Do not expect everyone to understand you. Be prepared that many whom you consider to be “friends” will distance themselves from you. Also, when you distance yourself from them, you may find that they were not real friends anyway. This is a good thing to discover anyway.
When we are left alone and we make room for those we love or we think we love , we discover how much we have given to them and how little we have been compensated for.
In addition, we become aware that we were the helmet in our relationship and that, as soon as we let go of the roof, the ship sinks.
Why did we take on this great responsibility? Why did we get involved in a relationship that was not real or true?
The answer is to be found in our great fear of being alone. This obscured our vision and made us give 100% of ourselves to those who barely gave 15% for us.
The importance of dedicating time to knowledge about yourself
The above is a good discovery, but something that is still better is when we realize who we really are. Because, even though we think we know ourselves, this is not usually true in this case.
We live in a world full of trouble. In this world, banal conversations and hypocritical friendships abound and they surround us. We press the “autopilot” button and we take off, like zombies, without tasting or experiencing life in its full meaning.
The price of loneliness is not as negative as it may seem, because you want to open your eyes to the reality of both your relationship and yourself.
You realize how much you did not know about yourself and how much time you need to give yourself to get to know yourself better.
In addition, you will also be aware that no one is obligated to satisfy your needs for care or love, because you can give it to yourself.
The price of loneliness is a wonderful path where you will understand that being dependent on someone has a heavy price: your happiness.
Photos: Luca Holestelle, Maria Tudela, Austin Tott, Laura Williams.
